What the feck have you done today?

Noobie said:
Cleared the last of dads stuff out of his bungalow, took the last readings for the water, electric and gas and due to drop the keys back to the council on Monday. Initially we had only applied for a medical power of attorney thinking he has so little money that we wouldn't need a financial Power of attorney.

It soon turned out we did need a financial power of attorney so one has now been set up. When you deal with his state pension, his bank, mobile phone contract, even the electric bills, it is so much more easier other wise they simply tell you they can't talk to you as you are not the account holder so if you are starting to experience dementia/alzhiemers of a parent/ sibling etc, it's worth getting both.

As to dad, he still has moments of clarity when he asks for help finishing things as at 88 he feels he's had a good run. He also has episodes of asking me and the other brothers "who are you?"

All in all though, he's safe, we still see the real dad on most occasions and the care home is fantastic with him. so It's the best compromise
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As you say, he’s safe - that’s the ultimate point. And he’ll be better there for himself. My ex father in law went that way…his family fought against it for a while, but it was better for all parties.
 
Noobie said:
Cleared the last of dads stuff out of his bungalow, took the last readings for the water, electric and gas and due to drop the keys back to the council on Monday. Initially we had only applied for a medical power of attorney thinking he has so little money that we wouldn't need a financial Power of attorney.

It soon turned out we did need a financial power of attorney so one has now been set up. When you deal with his state pension, his bank, mobile phone contract, even the electric bills, it is so much more easier other wise they simply tell you they can't talk to you as you are not the account holder so if you are starting to experience dementia/alzhiemers of a parent/ sibling etc, it's worth getting both.

As to dad, he still has moments of clarity when he asks for help finishing things as at 88 he feels he's had a good run. He also has episodes of asking me and the other brothers "who are you?"

All in all though, he's safe, we still see the real dad on most occasions and the care home is fantastic with him. so It's the best compromise
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I am approaching all this with my Dad at the moment. Luckily for me and my 4 siblings, Dad sorted all the epoa stuff out in 2004 as he thought it would be good to have all the loose ends tied up. I have epoa over the financials, for some reason, and so pay all his bills and monitor his bank accounts etc. in theory it can save a big shitfight when it is deemed necessary to assume full poa.
My youngest, nurse, sister has epoa over his health and wellbeing. He is still in his own house but rapidly approaching the point where he will need fulltime care. Not fun mate, is it?
 
Noobie said:
Cleared the last of dads stuff out of his bungalow, took the last readings for the water, electric and gas and due to drop the keys back to the council on Monday. Initially we had only applied for a medical power of attorney thinking he has so little money that we wouldn't need a financial Power of attorney.

It soon turned out we did need a financial power of attorney so one has now been set up. When you deal with his state pension, his bank, mobile phone contract, even the electric bills, it is so much more easier other wise they simply tell you they can't talk to you as you are not the account holder so if you are starting to experience dementia/alzhiemers of a parent/ sibling etc, it's worth getting both.

As to dad, he still has moments of clarity when he asks for help finishing things as at 88 he feels he's had a good run. He also has episodes of asking me and the other brothers "who are you?"

All in all though, he's safe, we still see the real dad on most occasions and the care home is fantastic with him. so It's the best compromise
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I was unaware that you could apply for P.o.A. after the person had lost their marbles. I thought it had to be agreed with them whilst they were still compos mentis.

My OH and I have set up both financial and health P.o.A. Let's hope it's never needed.
 
My family had intended to apply for PoA over my Dad's affairs but we (and he - thinking he'd be fine for a while yet) put it off and left it too late. The solicitor came to his hospital bed and but he was unable to sign his name and the doctor was not prepared to declare him of sound mind so it wouldn't have stood if he had signed. In the end it was academic because he didn't live long enough for his personal affairs to need managing. Plus his estate was not huge and was all in trust, and there were no conflicts or disputes within the family.
Where it gets very difficult is when the estate is large enough to require careful management if you're not to lose the lot in taxes or care fees, no trusts have been set up and the person's decline is long and slow and they are left in non compos mentis limbo for many years.
And of course there are at least three common types of PoA -lasting, ordinary, enduring and combined. As well as PoAs applied exclusively to health and welfare.
The thing to do is get the documentation drawn up well in advance while the subject is in perfect health and their wishes are clear and understood by all, just in case. It doesn't need to be invoked ever unless it becomes necessary. It can sit in a drawer and gather dust. But if it is needed it's just a case signatures and witnesses and it's good to go. Trying to thresh out all the details once the person has become ill and the family is in distress is a nightmare.
 
Currently on the starter motor upgrade.
 

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Starter upgrade complete - sounds different now (the starter motor) - fired up straight away....cant really test anymore than that as the previous starter was totally random when it went "slow" see how it goes. Took about 3 hours but a sizeable chunk of that was cleaning the liquid gasket off of the generator cover.

Wasnt without stupid fucking mistakes though....only recently changed the oil so i thought... "ill drop that back in" then proceeded to drop the starter motor - covered in rust into said oil....so fresh oil as well...
 
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Dox said:
I was in a golf match with a guy on Thursday evening who does open water swimming - did a relay comp last year at Windermere; 6 hours to do one length 😳 would take me six weeks!
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My sister is into open water swimming, did Ulleswater yesterday - 7.5 miles in 4hr 39min, first in her age group ( she's 64) and 45min ahead of 2nd place..
Did Coniston end to end a few weeks ago, second in that one.
 
Had to revisit the SXV clutch install quickly but, fixed a long standing clutch cable problem....and tbh ive no answer on exactly how i got the clutch arm to actually seat correctly but it is now...and i was missing a thrust bearing washer that stuck itself to the back of the oem plate...missed that...that being said it was nice, just removing a circlip to get the pressure plate off...
 

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New battery on S4RS today as the one I bought barely 18 months ago went bad on me last week when I got the bike out to go for mot. Hopefully get to mot tomorrow now and then move onto the water loss and overheating problem that started on Friday on the Suzuki kettle. Looking like the seal between the water pump and gearbix or head gasket at moment. Either way a PIA.
 
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